Career Woman

Most of us know what “The Family: A Proclamation to the World” teaches us about parents’ roles: “Mothers are primarily responsible for the nurture of their children,” while fathers are the ones who “are responsible to provide the necessities of life and protection for their families.”

I believe what “The Family: A Proclamation to the World” teaches. I believe that it is the word of God, spoken through the mouths of His modern-day Prophet and Apostles. I want to follow what it says because I believe that doing so is what will bring me the greatest joy.

I have also recently started looking for a career.

Not a job, some temporary form of employment to tide me over until I can finally get married and start a family of my own. A career. A solid, reliable, long-term career. Something that will hone my skills and talents while providing for my physical needs. Something worthy of my intelligence and my potential to make a difference in the world.

But, you ask, isn’t that antithetical to what “The Family” teaches?

No. I don’t believe it is. In fact, I would say that the two are synonymous. Whether I continue on the career path even after getting married or give up my job to spend more time with my children, here is what getting established with a career now will add to my future marriage and family:

• Security: The burden of providing financially for the family will not rest solely on one person. If there ever comes a time when my husband for whatever reason, be it medical or economic in nature, can no longer provide for the family via his own efforts, he can rest assured that there is someone else in the household qualified and willing to pick up that burden for him.
• Example: My daughters will realize that they have the freedom and ability to choose what they do with their lives, and my sons will have a respect for women, including Mormon women, whose life’s journey takes them on a more unconventional route.
• Love: My children and husband will recognize that I choose to put them first because I love them, not because some old guy told me it was important.
• Unity: My future husband won’t feel that he has to sacrifice providing for his family over spending time with them, but will know that he has the freedom to work with me as he tries to find his own balance between the two.
• Self-worth: I will recognize that my growth and development matter independent of what they will add to my children’s upbringing. This will help me lead my children from a place of confidence; rather than basing my worth off of how well my children perform in front of others, I will base my worth off of something more substantial: my personal ability to achieve my goals, independent of the decisions those I’m responsible for make.

So while the most important thing in my future will be my husband and children, in the meantime I will take advantage of this opportunity to establish a career. Not because I care more about worldly things than I do about following the prophet, but because I care about having strong relationships with my future family. And that will begin with having a strong relationship with myself – because, really, how can I nurture my future children if I have never learned how to nurture myself?